Date Like a Girl, Marry Like a Woman: The Polished Woman's Guide to Love, Romance, and Sex will help you navigate how to have a good time with "Mr. Right Now" and how to hold onto "Mr. Right" once you find him. Providing a mix easy to follow rules, and anecdotes showcasing how they worked (and in some cases what happened when they were ignored), Jessica Bunevacz is the best friend you'll wish you had all along and the one whose advice you'll go back to again and again.
Unlike “The Rules”, its successors, or similar books offering guidance on how to snag a man, this book isn't about playing hard to get, instead it's about playing to win. And the only way that you can truly to that is when you acknowledge yourself as the MVP. This is why one of the first rules in Date Like a Girl, Marry Like a Woman: The Polished Woman's Guide to Love, Romance, and Sex is about shedding your insecurities, and why other rules offer insight on looking, feeling, and being your best, with an emphasis on having your own life. Additionally, while other guides stop when you get to a marriage proposal, this is the book you'll come back to after you say “I do”. Understanding that happily ever after may be a good way to end a movie, but isn't a good way to start a marriage there are real tips about everything from friendship to sex to finances with both humor and heart.
Ultimately Date Like a Girl, Marry Like a Woman: The Polished Woman's Guide to Love, Romance, and Sex is a work that is meant to transcend beyond the pages as it's lessons are applied in daily life. It never asks a woman to shy away from her impulses or to hide who she is or what she wants, and instead celebrates her independence and sensuality while showing her ways that she can make her romantic life more fulfilling.
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What do you get when you mix a strict Catholic upbringing, a strong curiosity for the opposite sex, and the need to grow up quickly? If you're lucky you get an outcome like Jessica Bunevacz, the vivacious and outspoken first time author behindDate Like a Girl, Marry Like a Woman: The Polished Woman's Guide to Love, Romance, and Sex.
Born Jessica Rodriguez in the Philippines and raised by her grandparents after the separation of her mother and father, Bunevacz was thrust into the role of provider after the murder of her mother when she was fifteen. With four siblings relying on her she began work early, first as a live mannequin and later as a model, actress, talent manager and television host. The jobs not only helped her to support her siblings, but also her first two children. One of her proudest moments while working in entertainment was as the force behind a project called “Miss Ugly No More” where women were showed how they could feel and look their best. Juggling family and work Bunevacz was not content to simply sit on the sidelines while life passed her by, and dating became her favorite contact sport.
Traveling frequently for work and fascinated by men it wasn't long before she developed a set of rules to snag them, and guidelines for how she could remain at her best without being bested by the games others were playing. It wasn't long before she became a self-proclaimed MANnizer, capable of capturing and holding the attention of whoever interested her, while also continuing to do what was in her best interest as both a mother and entrepreneur with both family and a business to protect.
A romantic at heart however she soon stopped her pursuit of “Mr. Right Now” when she met the man who was “Mr. Right”, the man who became her husband. Newly married, she found herself rethinking everything she knew and realized that the same qualities that made a woman an amazing girlfriend didn't necessarily work for a wife. Rather than wait for someone else to write a marriage manual, she retooled her dating rules for herself to apply for a life after marriage. Jessica Bunevacz is now a happily married wife and mother of three currently residing in California.
While her life has been unconventional she has no regrets, and lives with the understanding that we all have the same basic desire: to feel loved, whether it's just for one night or for an entire lifetime. Using her own life experiences as a basis she develop real-world relationship advice to help women feel more confident and comfortable whether they're dating or have already said "I do".
When did you first realize you wanted to write this book?
A: I realized I wanted to write this book after I finished
writing my memoir and had someone review it and they pointed out how insightful the rules were. Their advice was to write the rules before the memoir, and that conversation echoed what my close friends and women that I'd helped with their relationship had been urging me to do.
How long did it take you to write this book?
A: The initial draft took about 6 months, but with editing the whole project took almost a year.
How did you get your book published?
A: It can be hard as a first time author to publish a book. At first, I thought about self publishing but then I found iRead Book Tours with Laura Fabiani and she introduced me to Don of SZ publishing company in NYC which helped me to go in a different direction, one that felt right for me.
Where do you get your information or ideas for your writing?
A: Everything in the book is based on my experiences and my own thoughts.
What does your family think of your book?
A: My family has had different reactions but they're all positive. My eldest daughter loves it, she knew all the stuff I talked about because she hears it from me everyday. My son was proud of it but he doesn’t want to read all of it because he thinks it’s awkward to read his moms sex life. My youngest daughter can't read it yet because she’s still too young but she’s proud of me and she said she cant wait to read it when she starts dating . My husband was proud of it, and actually wrote the foreword.
What was one of the most surprising things you learned in creating your book?
A: That it takes a lot of work, but you have to take your time. Sometimes you get writers block and you just stare at the ceiling or the computer and go to sleep. I also learned that in my case I needed a couple of people to edit my work.
Do you have any suggestions to help me become a better writer? If so, what are they?
A: My suggestion is to write about what you think it is right for you because at the end you want to be satisfied with what you have written and so it helps if you have a clear starting point that you're confident about.
As a child, what did you want to do when you grew up?
A: I wanted to be a dermatologist. I've always been obsessed with making women look prettier and younger. That's actually why in my book there's some focus on how a woman looks.
What would you like my readers to know?
A: That there's beauty within every woman. I don't believe in a word "ugly", but I know sometimes women feel that way, and I want to shake them out of that. Loving yourself first will help you get the love of your life, and settle down. And then hopefully this book will help you maintain that intimacy with your husband and have a better marriage.
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